The emotional feelings of love bring us to a feeling of elation, an exhilarating psychological state of great joy. Often it is our ability to appreciate the love that we receive that elevates our emotional feelings. However we sometimes allow our feelings to overtake us in the early stages of our relationships and we actually become infatuated. These feelings of euphoria may actually lead us into infatuation, which is an object of extravagant short-lived passion. These feelings of love, (misrepresented as love), are usually associated to exuberant passion, in temporary admiration. Many times it is due to this infatuated state that people become hurt because they are unable to control their emotional feelings.
The feelings associated with infatuation are more common among adolescents and younger adults. There are plenty of young women who are so taken by their feelings, and their hormones, that they give themselves away prematurely. They then wonder, and seek to answer the question; If he had sex with me does that mean he loves me? The answer to that question is no, having sex with you does not mean that he loves you. It means that he lusts you, and you lusted him, you had sexual feelings, not love feelings. Unfortunately, our society and it's cultural teachings associate sex to love, when in reality, sex outside of the context of marriage is generally lust driven. It's generally a self absorbing physical desire to selfishly meet ones own physical mania. Sex alone does not meet loves criteria, because love is not self seeking. Love feelings follow love actions, sexual feelings often follow reactions to lust driven desires. We are all human, and we all experience the desires of our flesh, however true love feelings are associated with a deep relational bonding, not just physical intimacy.
Everyone has a desire to be loved and to naturally feel the feelings that accompany love. Remember though that the feelings come in reaction to the love that is expressed. This means that love must first be bestowed in order for the feelings of love to follow. So for you to be feeling the feelings of love means that someone had to express, show, or convey love to you in some form or fashion. It is at this juncture that many people get stuck, they get stuck on their own self interests, they like the love, so they selfishly look to acquire more for themselves. Kind of sounds a lot like what people do with money right? We all battle with inward selfishness and our culture teaches us that more is better, (more for ourselves). Love does not seek it's own desires, it looks to fulfill the needs of others.
If you are feeling the feelings of love, wouldn't you want to know that your spouse or partner is also having those same feelings? Love begins by presentation, show love to your husband, give love to your wife, and they too will enjoy the feelings of love. There are many people who ask the question; how do I get my husband to love me? or.. How do I get my girlfriend to love me? Simply, start with your own loving behavior, quit thinking about what you want to receive and start giving love to them. Ignite their love feelings, and thus the responses to love, by your own initiation. Make love a habit, you can not spread love onto others and not receive it yourself. Kiss me and kiss me again, for your love is sweeter than wine. Song Of Songs 1:2
Intention is multiplied by action, act your way into a loving behavior and you will accomplish loving feelings. Execute love, seek to satisfy the needs of your wife, girlfriend, husband, or boyfriend. Provide love an opening to bring about those feelings of love. Supply love like oxygen, and the love feelings will follow. We must show love through actions that are sincere, not through empty words. 1 John 3:18
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Galatians 5:22-23
This is my prayer for you: that your love will grow more and more, and that you will have knowledge and understanding with your love. Philippians 1:9
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