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Top 10 reasons why men lie to women

No matter what you preach, sometimes you just gotta lie. For better or worse, it is a fundamental part of our lives that may not be moral, but still remains. There are many, many different cases in life where telling your woman the truth only gets you into trouble. But if you could somehow manage to say something that doesn’t hurt her, you’re in the clear. Hey, it’s better than revealing what you really did last night.
As the more “rational” sex (or so we tell ourselves), men can usually see the bigger picture. And white lies serve to leapfrog over all the yelling, petty explanations and frustration. Lying helps to avoid the emotional blowup over a small incident that we know is really insignificant.
So to further prove my point, here are ten reasons why sometimes, lying is the best way to go:


Number 10

Some women can’t handle the truth
Think of the alternative. If you tell your girlfriend you got toasted with the guys last night instead of preparing for that nice weekend in Vermont, she’ll flip. Oftentimes, girlfriends are simply too sensitive to accept the fact that you held your own and did something your way. You’d be wise to realize that you’d save yourself and your woman a lot of time and pain by blurting a little lie instead.


Number 9

It’s easier
Throw in a few lies about how much that tennis bracelet really cost and it’s a lot simpler than saying you had to take out a loan to please her. Why put yourself through a lot of discussion when you can simply end it by saying what she wants to hear? Both parties are happy, and no one gets hurt.


Number 8

It’s empowering
Usually, a great part of being the “man” in a relationship is having control. Often, even if they don’t directly admit it, some women like being submissive, letting you take command. If this is the case, who can blame you for twisting a story your way in order to assert power? That’s right, you did think of setting up that romantic dinner all by yourself...


Number 7

It can be fun
When you arrive late to an important dinner at a nice restaurant, are you really going to tell her that the game went into overtime? It’s more amusing and also lifesaving to say you pulled over to help an elderly woman with a flat tire or, more realistically, a policeman flagged you down for a busted taillight. Again, by stating that you were in a situation either beyond your control or in which someone was in need of your assistance, the blame spins away from you and you get showered with happiness that you made it.


Number 6

It saves disappointment
In a relationship that has recently become serious, the last thing you want to do is let her down and destroy all that trust that has taken you months to build. In lying about why you missed her important family gathering, you still maintain your integrity. That is not to say that this is like baseball, however: In this situation, it’s two strikes and you’re out. You have one “get out of jail free” card and that’s it.


Number 5

It’s the simple way out
Sure, you could stay up all night arguing about what you really meant when you said she was looking “thick” today, but you could end it right now if you bust out some truth twisting. When you’re in a sticky situation, escaping with something made up will leave you untainted. This is not limited to romantic relationships, but can also be useful with any over-observant co-worker, mother-in-law or even parole officer.


Number 4

Out of fear
Admit it. Somehow, somewhere, you took a wrong turn and got “whipped,” unlike the “empowered” guy in number eight. Now you’ve dug yourself a hole and although she keeps saying that she’d rather hear the truth than a story, you know she’ll go nuts on this one. Out of sheer fright, you must lie to save the relationship. It is not an option, but a duty. You like this woman a lot? Then one little white lie won’t hurt.


Number 3

It’s pain-free
The main reason for being dishonest is not for kicks, but to save your woman a world of heartache. You would never do it in an extreme situation, I hope. When asked “Am I fat?” or “Does this orange lipstick go with my purple dress?” it’s actually a trap waiting for you to get tied up in. Of course, she wants you to be truthful, but she’ll be hurt if you say what you’re really feeling. In this case, a short complimentary answer is in order. In doing this, you’ll be boosting her self-confidence and avoiding a full day of the “silent treatment.”


Number 2


To delay the inevitable
When an important commitment comes up that you cannot bring yourself to attend (one of her many friends’ housewarming parties), you can make like Houdini and disappear behind a tiny lie. When an important Sunday church service lands on the same day as the NFL playoffs, you know what to do. Grin and bear it next week, but say you need to stay in bed this time due to a stomachache. She’ll be glad you still want to go and will surely make an exception this time.


Number 1

It’s useful
Just like reverse psychology, lying is a tool men want, nay, need in their arsenal when facing a mood-changing, confusing woman. Whether on a first date or while enduring your one-year anniversary, one could delicately talk himself up. Picking up girls at clubs or bars requires a bit of this lying ability, aside from being debonair and having a bank of good lines.
choose your lies carefully


While lying is an important facet of a man’s game, it is always done for good. Properly used, no one will end up hurt and you can move on. This is the key. White lies should be in your “reserves,” but nothing more. It is in our nature to use these devices to please and if she is none the wiser, why stop? Just remember; once you’re caught lying, you may end up on the whipped side of the spectrum, or worse, alone.